I am not that type of person. It has been 15 months since my sister died, but I still choose not to look at pictures of her.
The heartache is too great. It will not always be this way, but this is how I feel now. Despite where I am in my own process, I wanted my nephew to be able to access pictures of his mom whenever he wanted the comfort of her image and to be able to use the photos to maintain or build memories based on our stories about her.
I searched for ways to give my nephew pictures of my sister that were presented in a child-friendly format. This turned out to be a great solution.
The book shares glimpses into the life he had with her, a life that he no longer remembers. We use the book to remind him that he does have a mom who loved him very much. Within the book, I chose to include pictures of my sister as a little girl, so he can see her, and recognize her, in all of her life stages. My husband and I both lost parents before our daughter was born. We want Corinne to grow up hearing stories about her Grandma and her Papa - and these books will provide her with a glimpse of her family story and the types of people that her grandparents were.
There is also the added benefit of providing an opportunity for my husband and I to teach our daughter about our parents. The books provide an avenue to make this type of sharing a part of our routine. With this in mind, I recently took on the project of making three photo books for Corinne. Each one dedicated to one of our beloved family members. This was an emotionally difficult project, but now that it is complete, I am so thankful that we have these images in our hands and are more regularly talking to her about her aunt and grandparents.
This photo book features big, beautiful pages on thick cardstock. It is sturdy with an interior spiral binding. I included all of the little anecdotes of my sister that few people would know about her. How she wished to try out for a toothpaste commercial after her braces were taken off, and how she once got lost in the woods for hours while hiking with a friend.
For her grandparent books, I used the Custom Board Book. The pages are protected with a glossy finish, and the books are the right size for toddlers to manipulate and carry around independently. These grandparent books also provided a way to introduce Corinne to her family history - the little river in upstate New York where my father grew up, and pictures of her grandma as a child on the Jersey Shore.
I wrote about my mother-in-law's love of gardening, and my father's passion for driving too fast. Do I write their life story? What information should I include?
First, remember that this book is for young children and is not very long. I used the pictures I had on hand to help me highlight particular facts. The grandparent books have a generally linear arc. But I included lots of memories of her from throughout her life to paint a picture of the person she was. I chose to include these on the title pages. I included them so my daughter could be familiar with these days too.
Of course, this is a personal choice. Should I include photos of the person when they are sick? Should I include information about their death? That depends. My mother-in-law planned a whirlwind trip to Disney World exactly two months before she died.
Though my sister had cancer, the disease did not cause her death, and I chose not to talk about how she died in the book. My father and mother-in-law's illnesses were a larger part of their story, and perhaps that is why I chose to include them in the books. Of course, this is a complicated question if your loved one died as a result of violence, mental health, or a tragic accident. It is important to do what you are comfortable with and what you think the child can handle.
The difference is that the Custom Board Book includes colored pages for text whereas the My Little Story Board book offers a white backdrop. You can fit approximately 30 words per page, a cover page, and up to 20 pages for photos and text.
It has a cloth cover they give you six color options for customization and feels much more like a keepsake. You can fit approximately 50 words per page, a cover page, and up to 24 pages for photos and text. Unlike the Board Book template, the text in this book does not automatically wrap. If you want to do a photo album with more than one picture on each page, it's no problem: they allow you to create collages or place photos on each page just about any way you want.
Wal-Mart has photo products at a budget-friendly price. You can either purchase the photo album or scrapbook and create it on your own or you can design one online and have Wal-Mart print and ship it to you. Vistaprint offers photo books in various sizes and orientations and covers in either linen or a photo. They also offer many other photo memory products such as canvas prints, calendars, blankets, mugs and more.
Snapfish has a large selection of photo products for reasonable prices. There are several size and hardcover options, as well as softcover and leather or linen book choices. They also have some excellent examples of memory and photo books on the website with helpful tips on creating one. If you decide to make a full scrapbook or simply want to include sayings on your photos, you can find a wealth of bereavement poems and quotes online.
You can either use the ones you find and include the author or you can use them for inspiration to write your own.
Journaling about your feelings and thoughts is a great way to cope with grief. As you write down the special moments you have shared with the deceased, you will begin the process of healing. This process can be painful but, remember, you may not have your loved one physically with you but you will always have treasured memories.
Collecting life stories about the deceased person can be difficult, especially if you are a friend of the survivor. The easiest way to do this is the most comforting way--spend time with the grieving person and just listen. As time goes on, you are likely to hear him or her start to reflect on their experiences they had with the deceased. You can also contact other family members, explain that you are creating a memory book for your friend, and ask them to share stories that you can highlight about the deceased most memorable events.
Not only will creating a memory book help you with the healing process for yourself or a friend, it will also be a precious collection of family history. This book can be shared with family members who, while they may have not been fortunate enough to meet the deceased, will at least be able to continue his or her life stories for many generations.
Choosing a Memory Book The first step in creating a memory book is to decide what type of book you want to capture the memories. Places to Purchase Memory Books Creative Memories has a large selection of photo albums and scrapbooks you can choose from.
Poems and Quotes If you decide to make a full scrapbook or simply want to include sayings on your photos, you can find a wealth of bereavement poems and quotes online. Feelings and Thoughts Journaling about your feelings and thoughts is a great way to cope with grief. Life Stories Collecting life stories about the deceased person can be difficult, especially if you are a friend of the survivor.
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